Being Vulnerable Can Help You Find Success
There’s something about emotional vulnerability that makes most of us squirm. I’m talking about the kind of discomfort that comes along with opening up, and honestly sharing your current experiences; both physical and emotional.
…What is it that you’re really going through?
Are you struggling with something in your life at the moment? A relationship (whether personal or professional), your health, your weight, your role as a parent, or even finding your ‘life purpose’?
As an example, many new mums struggle to share how they’re really feeling. They may fear embarrassment, being shamed, not measuring up to other mothers around them, being seen as unable to cope, feeling guilty, fearing some kind of unrealistic consequence, or just being perceived as ‘not good enough’.
Whether or not you can relate to this example, many people, at some time in their life, feel that they aren’t ‘good enough’. Good enough for that new job, or promotion, for their new partner, as a parent, or in some other way.
But, you are good enough.
You will always be good enough.
Perhaps, what would help, is learning to accept this?
Could it be, through understanding what your negative self-beliefs are, (and possibly, where they’ve come from), and gaining a greater understanding of why you have held onto them for so long, could help you?
Could it be that your unconscious mind is stifling you in ways that you may not have made sense of just yet? After all, our conscious mind only makes up a small fraction of our thoughts.
These automatic thoughts, which you may have held for much of your life, are like an automatic script. They’re self-beliefs that you hold deep down, that tell you, on some level, for some reason, that you don’t measure up. And every now and again, these unconscious thoughts manifest in your mind and body, in various ways – whether it be physical stress and anxiety, low mood or self-esteem, or even unconsciously sabotaging your relationships or career opportunities.
Sound familiar? If so, you’re definitely not alone.
Most of us want to be our best, and be perceived as strong, lovable, capable and successful. But, what does that really mean?
What does that honestly look like, for you?
And, more importantly, why does it matter?
…So how can you get to the bottom of this stuff, and correct these negative, untrue self-beliefs?
By sharing a part of yourself that you have otherwise pushed down, ignored, been too afraid to talk about, or dis-owned in some way.
Of course, you need to feel safe, without being judged, and alongside of the right person in your life, to do this work.
It may not be a walk in the park, it may mean dealing with some difficult emotions as they surface, but once you get through this, the changes can be liberating and empowering.
Greater self-compassion and self-love.
And of course, success can be all yours – whatever that looks like to you.
Wendy Gilroy is a Mother of 2, and a professional Counsellor for women. Wendy has a degree in Psychology, a Masters degree in Addiction Studies, and a Diploma of Counselling. She lives in Sydney, Australia, and offers secure ONLINE counselling for women around the world, as well as telephone, face-to-face and home visit services for mums.
Disclaimer: This is for information purposes only. If you have any concerns about your physical or mental health, please consult your healthcare practitioner for medical advice.