Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Life
Thoughts are so very powerful.
Thoughts can influence how you feel emotionally.
Thoughts can influence how you feel physically, too.
Thoughts can influence the choices you make, the actions you take, the behaviour you choose to display, as well as all those other things you choose not to do, and not to say.
Thoughts affect your motivation, your inspiration, your fears, your worries and your dreams.
Thoughts shape the person you are becoming, one moment at a time.
Learning to be in this very moment, is a practice that takes time and commitment to master.
Our brains are wired to be on alert for threats and danger, and so it’s way too easy for our minds to get carried away thinking of all the ‘negative stuff’ at times, or worrying about “what-if” this happens, or “what-if” that happens. This is exhausting and counter-productive.
You can not control everything in your life.
You can not control others (and you definitely can not control what others are thinking!),
You can not control events external to you.
However, you can control which thoughts you hold onto – the ones that serve a purpose to helping you move forward.
You can control which thoughts you will let go of – the ones that keep you stuck in the past, or in your imagined future.
You can learn to control your thoughts.
Understanding this, and accepting this, will help you move forward.
You can easily get lost in ruminating over past events that have made you sad, angry, worried or down on yourself for some reason.
Remember that person who broke your heart? That exam you didn’t do well in? That presentation you weren’t happy with? That person who got you feeling so mad?….It is so easy to get stuck in a negative cycle of thinking once you’ve been hooked into it by those sneaky thoughts.
Getting out of that cycle, and changing your mind, is a skill that you can learn, and in time, this can re-wire your brain (neuroplasticity) to be much more positive.
You can start to feel happier, and more optimistic.
You will be less inclined to get sucked into those negative thought patterns that you have known in the past (or present).
So, how do you wish to feel?
What would you rather be doing with your life?
What kind of relationships do you hope to experience?
Who do you wish to be?
…It all starts with your thoughts… one thought at a time.
If you’re going through something challenging in your life; such as a difficult relationship, family stress of some kind, separation, difficult parenting phase, stress at work, career crossroads, experiencing anxious or depressive thoughts, difficulty managing your weight or dealing with addiction, so much of where you are right now, versus, where you wish to be, is based on your thoughts.
Wendy Gilroy is a Mother of 2, and a professional Counsellor for women. Wendy has a degree in Psychology, a Masters degree in Addiction Studies, and a Diploma of Counselling. She lives in Sydney, Australia, and offers secure ONLINE counselling for women around the world, as well as telephone, face-to-face and home visit services for mums.
Disclaimer: This is for information purposes only. If you have any concerns about your physical or mental health, please consult your healthcare practitioner for medical advice.